The Enneagram Made Easy
Discover the 9 Types of People
HarperSanFrancisco, 1994, 161 pages
Your Enneagram type is THREE.
"I need to succeed"
Achievers are energetic, optimistic, self-assured, and goal oriented.
How to Get Along with Me
- Leave me alone when I am doing my work.
- Give me honest, but not unduly critical or judgmental, feedback.
- Help me keep my environment harmonious and peaceful.
- Don't burden me with negative emotions.
- Tell me you like being around me.
- Tell me when you're proud of me or my accomplishments.
Give me a "Hell Yeah!!"
What I Like About Being a Three
- being optimistic, friendly, and upbeat
- providing well for my family
- being able to recover quickly from setbacks and to charge ahead to the next challenge
- staying informed, knowing what's going on
- being competent and able to get things to work efficiently
- being able to motivate people
What's Hard About Being a Three
- having to put up with inefficiency and incompetence
- the fear on not being -- or of not being seen as -- successful
- comparing myself to people who do things better
- struggling to hang on to my success
- putting on facades in order to impress people
- always being "on." It's exhausting.
Tell me about it! Where's the "off" switch? Probably doubles as the "die" switch.
Threes as Children Often
- work hard to receive appreciation for their accomplishments
- are well liked by other children and by adults
- are among the most capable and responsible children in their class or school
- are active in school government and clubs or are quietly busy working on their own projects
...yes, that describes my potential, but I was too quirky to live up to it. Long story...
Threes as Parents
- are consistent, dependable, and loyal
- struggle between wanting to spend time with their children and wanting to get more work done
- expect their children to be responsible and organized
All I have to parent is cats, and they are anything but responsible and organized. It is true that I wish all my kids would be less demanding while I'm trying to work... which seems to be pretty much all the time. I do try to "make time" for occasional belly rubs, and of course if Alex is in the room, he demands constant lap snuggling or sink drinks.
And while dwelling on such stress management tools as belly rubs, here's a worrying article on the state of things.